I NO LONGER SIT AT TABLES WHERE I MIGHT BE THE TOPIC WHEN I GET UP.
Can I get an AAAAAAMMMMEEENNNNN?!
There was a time when I believed that, in order to belong, I had to pull up a chair at those kinds of tables. The ones where whispers float around about someone else’s mistakes, their flaws, or the latest drama—where gossip was the main course and judgment the dessert. I used to think, “This is just how women are.” I used to think maybe I just didn’t belong, that somehow I wasn’t enough.
But let me drop a little Brene Brown wisdom here: “Our worth cannot be determined nor negotiated by other people.” And oh, how true that is.
Because here’s the thing—if you’re sitting at a table where the conversation is built on tearing someone else down, guess what? The moment you leave, you might just be the next one in the spotlight. Harsh? Maybe. True? Absolutely.
So, GIRL… it’s time to get a new table.
Boldly, I share this from my own experience: find a new seat. A seat at a table full of women who cheer for each other like they’re hosting their own personal Arsenio Hall show. A seat where the “not-quites” and “never-get-it-rights” all gather and lift each other up. A seat where confidence is served like cake, laughter is always on the side, and conversation pushes everyone higher—leaving zero room for speaking ill of others.
Yes, tables like this may feel rare, but trust me—they exist. And there’s always an open chair waiting for you. All you have to do is take it.
